constantly mis-judged

The fetish scene, just hearing those words will conjour images of kinky unsafe sex for the unknowing masses. Not only sex but higher risk behaviors. This is not necisarily true. I work for a fetish company and intercourse is not the main attraction, nor is it what the club is made for. Do some people have sex at fetish parties, i would be lying if i said no but for the most part its more about the idea of living your fantasies, to be in a place where it is okay to be yourself and not be judged for your "fetishes", or even to just be someone completely different for a night, or play with people with similar intrests if thats what tickles your fancy. Otherwise you can just dance to some industrial music and meet other open minded people. Fetish parties are to have a safe place to let your fantasies go, not a haven for rapists and deviants, these clubs are made for consentual adults, who if they choose to play use protection it is also a place to simply have fun and socialize. People assume because someone is in the fetish scene that they are promiscuous, well i can put that myth to bed (no pun intended) me and several of my friends in the scene have had less parterns then the majority of people who are "vanilla" in there sex lives. You can embrass your sexuality and be comfortable with it without being a whore. Puritain views of sex is what makes it dirty, we are naturally sexual creatures, and there is nothing wrong with expressing that.